This topic came to mind to write about as September is a trying time with tons of emotions and changes for students and working individuals alike. I mean, it’s depressing enough that summer’s over and winter is on the horizon. So, I wanted to address the fact that a lot of people are going through a lot of stuff right now, and I wanted to offer some advice and strategies I’ve learned over the years to help cope with everything going on.
Step 1: Recognize what you’re feeling.
This step is the beginning to it all- if you don’t acknowledge your feelings, they could just become worse and more suffocating. If you don’t think there’s an issue, you won’t be able to start fixing it and healing.
Step 2: Reach out to friends and family.
This can feel like a very lonely time, and having familiar voices and support is a massive hope and reminder that you’re still you, and you’ll be okay. It gives you the ability to relate to others and express what you’re feeling in a vulnerable way and a safe environment.
Step 3: Look at the positives.
I know this is a little cliche to say, however it truly makes a world of difference. Something that has really helped me over the years is writing a short entry every once in a while in a gratitude journal. Then, you can also read back and reflect on past entries. For myself, it’s helped me realize that I’ve gotten through a lot of really difficult things in the past, and there’s no reason I can’t do it again.
Step 4: You’re not alone.
You’re not alone, it’s as simple as that. Chances are, there’s others feeling exactly what you’re feeling right now.
Step 5: Give yourself time.
Be easy on yourself. It’s easy to fall into the trap of being hard on yourself for not doing as well as you feel you should be, or getting frustrated with yourself for not feeling like your normal self. Just know it takes time, as hard and torturous as it sounds.
Now, I know it’s not easy and magical to simply follow these steps and feel like yourself again, however, there’s people to help you. You’re never stuck.
No matter what you’re going through, just continue to do your very best and know that everyone is supporting you and proud of you.