I search for acceptance within others while forgetting to remember to accept myself. 

Be in love with who you are, where you’re from, what you look like, what you do, love yourself. 

You control what you see, change your perspective. Wake up every morning knowing what you want. Say it, wake up and call yourself beautiful, handsome, smart, and say your goal. The more respectful you are to yourself, the more you will love what you see. 

“Your reflection is your perception on yourself. Only you get to choose what kind of mirror you’re looking into.”  – DEOL

Everyday I wake up and I state my goals, I call myself beautiful and start my day. It’s manifestation, I know what I want and I’m working for them. If you haven’t read the book “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne or watched the movie, you are really missing out, it’s all about manifestation and the law of attraction. It’s about how you will get what you want depending on your mindset. If you are always negative and complaining about everything wrong with your life, you are attracting negativity. If you are positive and look at negative situations in a brighter light and manifest for the good from the bad, you will attract positivity from the universe. 

At times I would feel so insecure and think “what are they going to think of me”, “Ugh why do I look like this, they’re going to think I’m ugly”. Something I have learned is that you need to learn to accept yourself, and love who you are before looking for that love and acceptance from other people. I am still guilty of this sometimes because it is really hard to get out of the habit of hating on yourself and looking for confirmation and acceptance within the people around you. Even picking outfits I find complicated because I don’t want to look weird or stand out like the ugly duckling. I’m always looking to fit in and I’m too scared to explore my own style… or maybe I can’t afford it! I am so insecure about my acne that I rarely want to leave my house. 

My main goal is to become a successful actor, but I have so many insecurities keeping me away. Society has put it in our heads that we have to look a certain way to be beautiful or handsome and the way we were made isn’t good enough. No matter how beautiful someone is, they have insecurities, they want to fix things about themselves. You may be wishing you looked like someone else, but there is somebody behind you wishing they were you. Whether it be a physical feature, mental feature, or the life you live, someone wishes to be you.

I want to wake up one day and be happy with what I look like, who I am, where I am, and what I do. It isn’t going to happen over night, no way. What we need to do to achieve these goals is put positivity into the universe, remind yourself everyday that you are beautiful, smart, happy, and what your goals are. If it doesn’t work, so what? At least we tried or brainwashed ourselves to believe we are beautiful, which would be great because then we would see the truth. Everybody is beautiful, the word ugly should never have been invented. Everybody deserves to be loved by themselves because that’s the most important type of love, self love.

Here are some inspirational quotes:

“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.” –  Confucius

 

“Reality is a projection of your thoughts or the things you habitually think about.” – Stephen Richards

 

“When you want to attract something into your life, make sure your actions don’t contradict your desires.. Think about what you have asked for, and make sure that your actions are mirroring what you expect to receive, and that they’re not contradicting what you’ve asked for. Act as if you are receiving it. Do exactly what you would do if you were receiving it today, and take actions in your life to reflect that powerful expectation. Make room to receive your desires, and as you do, you are sending out that powerful signal of expectation.”― Rhonda Byrne, The Secret

 

“Beauty is no quality in things themselves: It exists merely in the mind which contemplates them; and each mind perceives a different beauty.” – David Hume

 

“Some of us teach ourselves and our children to love the superficial outer; our looks, hair, skin, clothes rather than the greater beauty that resides within whereas it is that inner beauty that really defines you and who you truly are.”– Rassool Jibraeel Snyman

“That’s always seemed so ridiculous to me, that people want to be around someone because they’re pretty. It’s like picking your breakfast cereals based on color instead of taste.” – John Green

“Did you hear about the rose that grew from a crack in the concrete? Proving nature’s laws wrong, it learned to walk without having feet. Funny, it seems to by keeping its dreams; it learned to breathe fresh air. Long live the rose that grew from concrete when no one else even cared.” – Tupac Shakur

 

“She was beautiful, but not like those girls in the magazines. She was beautiful, for the way she thought. She was beautiful, for the sparkle in her eyes when she talked about something she loved. She was beautiful, for her ability to make other people smile, even if she was sad. No, she wasn’t beautiful for something as temporary as her looks. She was beautiful, deep down to her soul. She is beautiful.”– F. Scott Fitzgerald

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, your version of beautiful is different than mine and everyone sees beauty in different forms. Be proud to be who you are and express yourself by wearing what you want to wear or doing what you want to do. Learn to love everything about yourself. Eventually one day you will wake up and love what you see when you look in the mirror, you will love your thought process and how productive you are, you will love where you are and what you do with your life. Open your mind to these possibilities and be more positive, look at everything with a bright new light. I believe in you, and I think you’re beautiful. You can reach out and talk to me @myadeol on Instagram!