The Ups and Downs of Fitness

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My relationship with the gym has been ever-changing and ever-growing, and I thought it would be helpful to recap my journey. I started working out when I was about 14, basically as soon as I was old enough to go to the gym. At the time, I was playing two sports and thought working out would help me grow stronger. My dad encouraged me to start, and we would go together. That’s where it all began.

As a teenage girl figuring things out, body image was always a big deal. It’s one of those things that’s always there, and it can make you feel all sorts of ways. I’ve had a rocky relationship with my body image—still do, to be honest—but I’m working on it and my journey to self-love is an everyday effort. That’s part of why consistency with the gym has been tough for me. My motivation changes constantly as I go through different phases in life. It also I have noticed at least changes throughout my ages it crazy to say this cause I am only 20 but I have felt the different changes and they are drastic. When I was 17 I could stay at the gym for 2-3 hours without even noticing and nowadays I struggle just to make it to a full hour. It’s so odd the way our bodies work. Which then brings me too…

When I was younger, going to the gym felt easier. It was fun and exciting, and I was so  motivated. But as time passed, I went through periods of falling off. When I was 16 , I stopped going entirely. I convinced myself I didn’t need it because I was staying active through other activities. But then I started feeling tired all the time and had zero motivation. Even swimming, which I used to love, left me feeling drained. I realized I felt weak, and something needed to change.

So, I returned to the gym and pushed myself to be consistent. During my senior year of high school, I worked out a lot. But I also struggled with body image. I’d look in the mirror and think I was so much bigger than I actually was. It’s wild how your brain can play tricks on you. Still, working out made me feel better overall. I wasn’t winded walking up stairs or covering long distances. The gym became my one constant, especially since I was sick a lot that year—eye infections every month, you name it. At least the gym gave me a sense of control.

Then came my first year of college. I stopped going to the gym altogether. I was swamped with work and school and couldn’t find the time or energy to fit it into my schedule. Honestly, I didn’t even try. It wasn’t until the summer after I left my first college, Langara, that I decided to start again. I’d dropped out and was spending way too much time at home eating junk food. I knew that wasn’t the answer.

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At the start of the summer, I was super consistent with the gym. June and July 2022 were great months for me fitness-wise. But by August, I’d started slipping again. Work took over, and I just couldn’t balance everything. In September, I began attending BCIT, and once again, the gym fell by the wayside. My schedule was so packed that I couldn’t even consider fitting it in. It wasn’t until I became friends with people who genuinely enjoyed working out that my mindset shifted. They showed me that the gym didn’t have to feel like a chore. It could be something you do to feel good and stay healthy.

Working out with friends motivated me, and I started going consistently again. By the following spring and summer, I’d never felt healthier. I also got into my first relationship during that time, and my partner happened to be into fitness too. There’s this stereotype that you gain weight in relationships because you get comfortable, but I think it depends on the person you’re with. My partner’s motivation and focus on health inspired me to stay consistent. He makes sure that we go together at least twice a week and he doesn’t make me feel bad about not going either. However, he knows if I had a tough day to just drag me to the gym because as much as I hate to admit it, it does make me feel a whole lot better.

Right now, though, I’m in a rut. I’m working all the time, going to school every day, and constantly feeling tired. I’ve struggled to find the energy to go to the gym. Still, I’ve made an effort to go at least once or twice a week. It’s not ideal, but it’s something. That small effort reminds me that my passion for fitness is still there, even if it’s lingering in the background for now. It is also still January and I feel as if there are two sides of the coin with this month either you’re incredibly motivated and you’re always putting in the work or your completely burnt out and you take weeks off. I am definitely on the side of taking a break. January is also the kind of month in which you feel everyday. The days don’t fly by as quickly as others do and this is one of the months that just drags on, however we always manage to get through it.

Writing this helps me reflect on how far I’ve come and how much better I feel when I’m consistent. Maybe you can relate to these cycles of going and not going to the gym. One thing I’ve learned is that the gym doesn’t have to be a chore unless you make it one. Finding people who make it fun can make all the difference.

If you’re thinking about starting your gym journey, it doesn’t take much to begin. Even a 30-minute treadmill session or a 45-minute workout can be enough to make you feel accomplished. It’s about starting where you’re at and building from there. You can start your journey at any time. If you’re scared or intimidated, remember: pop in your headphones, lock in, and focus on yourself. At the end of the day, you’re doing it for you and no one else.

Experience the Fan Life: Vancouver Warriors

This Friday , I had the chance to watch the Vancouver Warriors play, but this time as a fan. You might be wondering what that means. Usually, when I attend Warriors games, I’m there in a professional capacity, helping out with their media coverage. I’m up high in the press box, taking in the action from a bird’s-eye view and focusing on the game in a more detached way.

But this week was much different. This time, I decided to experience the game the way fans do—sitting in the actual seats of Rogers Arena , immersed in the energy of the crowd. Now, don’t get it twisted—I’ve been in those seats before for concerts and other events likes a Canucks game, but I’d never actually watched a Warriors game this way. I’d never sat down with my friends and fully enjoyed the game from a fan’s perspective. Now a part of me missed the press box because I had about a 100 little kids screaming in my ear but hey, that’s the way things roll down there right.

So, I grabbed three of my best friends and planned a fun night out. It was so funny because, even though I was supposed to be in a non-work mindset, I couldn’t fully shake the professional headspace at first. I kept spotting people I knew from the press box. I even met up with my classmates who were working the game, which felt surreal. I finally got to dress down for once no professionalism needed.

Eventually, though, I got some mini donuts, settled into my seat, and finally let myself enjoy the fan experience. It was incredible. Sure, I missed the first quarter because some of us were running late, but we still made it in time to catch most of the action.

The Warriors were playing the Ottawa Bears, and it was an intense matchup. The Warriors were in top form that night, dominating the game. Aden Walsh, our goalie, was absolutely on fire. His saves were phenomenal, and the energy in the arena was electric. Adam Charalambides also had an amazing night, scoring some jaw-dropping goals.

One of the best parts of the evening was soaking in the fan interactions happening around us. It wasn’t just about the game—it was about the community vibe. The Warriors’ team does a fantastic job of creating interactive moments for fans. Walking around the concourse at Rogers Arena, we saw tons of fun activities designed to engage people, especially the younger fans.

One of my favourite things was a drawing competition where fans were tasked with sketching the Warriors logo. Then, they’d ask people passing by to vote on which drawing was more accurate. It was such a simple yet fun way to engage everyone, and it made the experience feel personal.

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Another highlight was seeing the two young boys sitting in front of us, who were a part of a local lacrosse team got the chance to experience the game from another angle. Partway through the game, a Warriors representative approached them and invited them to sit by the glass for a better view. Watching their faces light up was such a beautiful reminder of what sports can do. Moments like that bring people together and create lasting memories.

This sense of community is something I’ve talked about a lot, but I’ll never get tired of it. Sports have this magical ability to unite people, whether it’s a small fan base or a massive one. At a Canucks game, for instance, the huge amount of fans makes for an incredible atmosphere, but it’s harder to create those intimate, one-on-one interactions. At a Canucks game at least what I noticed is that because it is of higher standings with it being the NHL the tone is still fun and special however there is a more emotional and serious feel to it.  At a Warriors game, the smaller crowd allows for a more personal touch, and that’s something truly special there is a lesser amount of pressure in a way and less daunting unless where down a point and we want to win the game however there is a more cozy feel to those games. I would compare it too, for example a Canucks game live at the Arena is like watching a sports game with with your entire family including your Uncles, Aunts, Grandparents etc. and your not sure who’s going to start up either a fight or fun conversation. Rather at a Warriors game it’s your in your own home your with your immediate family or surrounded by friends. There’s is less pressure in the room is what I am trying to get at.

It’s also a testament to how smart the Warriors’ marketing team is. They’ve found ways to engage fans in a meaningful way, making the experience more than just about the game—it’s about building a community.

As for my friends, they had a blast. Two of them had never seen a lacrosse game before, and watching their reactions was hilarious. My friend Savannah got really into it, chanting for fights to break out on the field and cheering like a seasoned fan. On the other hand, my friend Johnny was completely baffled by the constant music.

For those who don’t know, lacrosse games are unique in that they play music continuously, even while the game is in play. At hockey games, the music stops once the puck drops, but with lacrosse, the energy never dips. I’ve gotten used to it, but for Johnny, it was a whole new experience. He spent most of the game enjoying himself but also questioning why they were blasting music the entire time.

Meanwhile, my boyfriend—who played lacrosse as a kid—had his own moment of nostalgia. Watching the game brought back memories of his time playing, and it was like a full-circle moment for him.

For me, seeing my friends experience something I’ve grown to love was heartwarming. It reminded me of when I first started watching lacrosse and working with the Warriors through BCIT. Those early days were filled with excitement and wonder, and this night brought all those feelings just rushing back.

I’m so grateful for the opportunities BCIT has given me to work with the Warriors and be part of this incredible world of sports. It’s been a dream come true, and I hope to continue building on these experiences even after I finish school.

Sports, whether it’s lacrosse, hockey, or football, have this unmatched ability to bring people together. They create moments of joy, nostalgia, and connection that can stay with you forever. I can’t wait to see where this journey takes me next, but one thing’s for sure—I’ll always hold space for nights like this, where I get to experience the magic of sports not just as a professional, but as a fan.

How to Navigate Being a Sports Fan but Like, Not?

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I’m a sports fan. Growing up, I watched the Canucks. I watched hockey in general, the NFL, the NBA, and, on off days, even golf. I’m also a big Formula One fan. However, I wouldn’t necessarily call myself a diehard sports fan now.

In my program, I’m surrounded by genuinely passionate, incredibly dedicated sports fans who know every nitty-gritty detail about players. They know the stats, what the players ate for breakfast, their jersey numbers, and even the history behind the teams. Meanwhile, I just like watching sports. I have my favourite players and teams, but I’m not the type to sit down and discuss stats or strategy endlessly. I simply enjoy what’s in front of me and react to it in the moment.

It’s kind of hard being a casual sports fan surrounded by dedicated ones. As a girl into sports, you also deal with stereotypes and constant questioning. It’s annoying, honestly. Sometimes, people’s reactions make you wonder, “Why do you care so much? At the end of the day, it’s just people doing their jobs—they just have a slightly unconventional job.” But I get it. I understand the passion and dedication that come with being a sports fan. I understand why people love the stats, the history, and the strategy.

Even so, there are other things in life to be excited about. I like to keep a balanced perspective—except when the Canucks are in the playoffs. That’s non-negotiable for me. If they’re in the playoffs, all bets are off. It’s a big deal, and I don’t play around with that.

If there were a tier system for sports fans, I’d say I’d fall somewhere in the middle. I’m not the number one fan, but I’m also not at the bottom. Sports don’t consume my entire life, and I try not to let it overtake what I do or how I go about my day. I’m not going to look at stats or be part of a fantasy league. I’m not spending money on bets or sports fantasy teams because, honestly, I already spend enough money elsewhere. I have a bad shopping addiction that I am currently working on so the last thing I should do is put my money on a player.

That said, I still have my moments. Sometimes, I want to go to a bar, grab a drink, and watch a hockey game. There’s something so enjoyable about the atmosphere of being surrounded by fans cheering for their teams. Some of the best moments of my life were spent watching games with my dad—whether it was hockey, football, or a 6 am Formula One Race on a Sunday. Those moments weren’t just about the games themselves but about the memories we created together.

For me, that’s the most important part of being a sports fan: the connections it create. Sports bring people together in a way that’s hard to replicate. For example, my boyfriend is a big basketball fan. When we first started talking, basketball became our main topic of conversation. We bonded over the NBA Finals last year, and now 6 months later we’re arguing about what’s better Hockey or Basketball. It’s funny to think that sports were the starting point of our relationship.

Even though I don’t obsess over stats, I do know my stuff when it comes to teams and players I’m passionate about. I ask questions when I don’t understand something—usually to my dad, who’s a fountain of sports knowledge. He never gives me attitude about my questions, which I appreciate. For example, even though I grew up watching baseball and watched my dad play softball, I still don’t fully understand the infield fly rule. But he always takes the time to explain it to me, no judgment.

As a girl who loves sports, though, asking questions can sometimes feel discouraging. There’s this pressure to already know everything or risk being dismissed. But learning about sports—or anything, really—doesn’t have to be a demeaning experience. If you’re new to being a sports fan, it shouldn’t be an uphill battle to get into it.

No matter which teams or sports you choose to follow, someone will always have something to say. They’ll tease you about your choices or question your loyalty. It’s frustrating, but you just have to push through it and remind yourself why you enjoy sports in the first place. For me, it’s about the fun and the joy it brings—not about impressing anyone with my knowledge.

One thing that’s helped me navigate this space is following women-run sports media outlets. Locally, we have a website called Girls at the Games, which promotes women in sports. I love checking out their content because it offers a fresh, relatable perspective. Similarly, Evolution 107.9 has some great sports writers who cover hockey and other topics with a unique voice.

Reading and watching sports coverage led by women is incredible refreshing. It’s kind of like the concept of the male gaze versus the female gaze in movie making. Women bring a different perspective to sports journalism, and it’s something I try to incorporate into my own writing. I aim to make my articles more accessible and relatable. It is also great seeing more women in that field of work.

One of my main inspirations growing up was Hazel Mae a Filipino-Canadian Sports Writer and Commentator. She was a big inspiration for me growing up because she looked like me. Throughout many sports broadcast channels all I would see were men taking up much of the screen and fair enough they have the knowledge and the talent to do the job however seeing her do the Bluejays coverage and MLB media was always a delight for me.

I genuinely think it’s essential to have diverse points of view in sports media. It creates a larger, more inclusive community. Not everyone approaches sports with the same mindset, and that’s okay. By breaking things down in a way that’s easier to understand, we can make sports more approachable for everyone.

So, yeah, that’s how I feel about being a casual sports fan in a male-dominated space. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it. I hope you found something relatable in this article, and I’m looking forward to sharing more sports content—both from me and my classmates.

Creating Your Own Path

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I feel like everybody goes through different sorts of changes in their life. Everybody has different milestones, but I think a lot of people in college or post-secondary education can relate to this experience of changing their mind about their path. As simple as it sounds, it can  become the beginning of a new chapter, a new journey—one that you may never have realized you needed. Those moments in life can be transformative, even though they might feel overwhelming or scary at the time.

For me, right after graduating from high school, I knew I wasn’t going to jump into post-secondary right away. I had decided to take some time off to travel first, and then I planned to start post-secondary during the spring/winter term. At the time, I felt good about my decision. It gave me a chance to see the world, explore new experiences, and think about what I wanted to do.

When I finally started post-secondary, I was enrolled at Langara in the Health Sciences program. From the start, I thought this was the right choice for me. My mom had always wanted one of her girls to pursue a career in health sciences. It had been a dream of hers for as long as I could remember, and my sister had already walked away from that dream. I felt like it was my turn to step up and try to fulfill it. I had good grades, I was motivated, and I truly believed I was ready for that challenge.

At first, I tried to convince myself that becoming a travel nurse was the career for me. It seemed like a stable job with good pay, and it was a field that society generally respects. On paper, it sounded like everything I could want in a career. But as the semester progressed, I realized something important: I wasn’t passionate about what I was learning.

The truth hit me like a ton of bricks. I felt like I was taking up someone else’s spot in the program—someone who might have actually wanted to be there. Every class felt like a struggle. I lacked motivation and excitement that should’ve been a part of my learning. I found myself in a deep, depressive state that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. It was the first time in my life that I truly felt incredibly lost.

I was failing my classes—not because I wasn’t trying, but because I couldn’t grasp the material. I spent countless nights studying until 3 or 4 a.m., crying over textbooks and lecture notes, only to walk into exams knowing I was gonna fail. The concepts just didn’t stick, no matter how hard I tried.

The only class I felt  confident in was English. It was an academic writing course, and I knew get at least a B. But my other classes were a nightmare. Statistics, was like torture. I’ve never been good at math, so the material completely consumed me. While I had done okay in high school biology, the memorization required in a college-level course was on a whole new level. It was just too much for me to handle.

Adding to my struggles was the long commute to campus. Some people wake up incredibly early and travel long distances to get to schools like UBC or SFU, and I admire them for that. But for me, the commute to Langara felt like a chore. The only bliss I felt in it where cold quite mornings on the bus to school when I would sit on a single seater with headphones in wistfully looking out the window.

The only thing I genuinely liked about Langara was studying in the T-building. There was something peaceful about that space, and it became a small comfort in a difficult time. My daily routine, however, was far from ideal. I would buy Starbucks every morning—breaking my bank in the process—head to class, and then go to a job I hated. My days were repetitive, and I felt stuck in a cycle of unhappiness.

Socially, I wasn’t doing much better. I had little to no interaction with others, and I felt isolated. Looking back, that period of my life was one of the hardest I’ve ever experienced.

If you have an Asian mom, you’ll understand what I’m about to say. My mom had always been a driving force in my academic life. Her expectations were high, and I often felt like I was living her dream rather than my own at the time.

One day, as I was scrolling through my computer, I stumbled across the Radio Arts and Entertainment program. at BCIT. It felt like fate. I clicked on the program description, read through the courses and job opportunities, and instantly had a lightbulb moment. For the first time in a long time, I saw a potential future that aligned with my passions and interests.

I’ve always been a huge sports fan, and the idea of working in sports journalism felt like a dream. Beyond sports, I’ve also had a long-standing passion in fashion and marketing. I would say I’m a  social person who enjoys yapping with others, but I’m also quite introverted, which helps me stay grounded. The Radio Arts and Entertainment program seemed like the perfect fit for my personality and goals.

By March , I had made up my mind to apply. When I told my mom about my decision, her reaction was intense. She looked at me as though I had just dropped a bombshell. I could see the disappointment in her eyes, and for a moment, I questioned whether I was making the right choice.

It wasn’t an easy conversation. I explained to her that I wasn’t happy in Health Sciences and that continuing it just wasn’t an option for me. I told her that I needed to follow a career that aligned with my passions and interests, even if it wasn’t what she had envisioned for me.

Eventually, she came around. My dad, on the other hand, was supportive from the start. He told me he could see how unhappy I was and that he was proud of me for making the decision to change paths early on.

At 18 years old, I made one of the most important decisions of my life. I applied for the Radio Arts and Entertainment program at BCIT, and by April, I received my acceptance letter. I was so happy and relieved. My dad was the first person I called, and he was so happy for me. Then I told my mom and sister, and they were thrilled too. It felt like a fresh start—a new beginning.

Now, nearly two years into the program, I can confidently say that I made the right choice. The past couple of years have been some of the most rewarding and fulfilling of my life. I’ve met incredible people, gained valuable skills, and had amazing opportunities that I never would have experienced if I hadn’t taken that leap of faith.

I’m excited to build a career in marketing or PR. Over time, my new developed a passion for social media marketing and public relations has also aided in this career change. I find social media research incredibly intriguing.

I know the job market is competitive, but I believe that with hard work and determination, anything is possible. Every change I’ve made in my life has led me to where I am now, and I wouldn’t change a thing.

Little 18-year-old me made a brave decision, and it was the right one. I know this is where I’m meant to be. My future feels bright, and I’m ready to take on new challenges,  so stay positive, and keep growing.

Losing Someone Who’s Not Gone

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I feel like sometimes it doesn’t get talked about enough, but going through a friendship breakup is really something. It’s different than going through a relationship breakup. Now, mind you, I’m coming from a perspective that has never gone through a romantic relationship breakup, but I have gone through many, many, many friendship breakups. The feeling is genuinely sometimes unbearable, but you always come through on the other side. And we’re just going to talk about it today and get into it. If you find any comfort in this article, I really, really hope you do.
My friend of many, many years and I just weren’t clicking anymore. I definitely felt it. I don’t know how she felt; I can’t speak on her behalf. But from my point of view, we were just different people, and I think we were OK with that. There was nothing wrong with it—at least, that’s what I thought. But overall, our friendship came to an end because of a misunderstanding, and it just came at such a fast pace. It felt like a fastball hitting me at over 90 mph, straight into my gut. It hurt so much because I was so shocked at how one person could just pack up and go so fast.

I was talking to my sister about this, and it’s always good to have somebody to talk to about this kind of stuff. Thankfully, I have my older sister, and she’s gone through the exact same situation I have. She said, “Maybe, on your end, you didn’t think that something was going on, but maybe this was the final thing to let you go.” Again, I cannot speak to how the other person was feeling, but I thought that was really something to consider. It’s true: you never know how someone else is feeling unless you ask, unless you talk about it. And we didn’t really communicate. There was a big lack of communication in our friendship and underlying issues that just weren’t brought to light. They were really suppressed, so that’s where we kind of came crumbling down. We had been friends for years. We even traveled together. But the switch-up was just insane for me, and I wasn’t expecting it at all. I thought that we would eventually figure things out and work it out.

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Now, after a couple of months, I am OK with not having to see this person again. It was one of the worst feelings I’ve ever gone through in my life and one of the worst weeks I’ve ever had. Losing her felt like a death—genuinely, like I lost somebody. All of a sudden, overnight, she just wasn’t in my life anymore. And it was really, really hard. Even thinking about it now, it still pains me that I went through this because I’ll never understand how it was so easy for her to dispose of me. But the best thing about what happened was that I did not go through it alone. I had my solitude moments where I would cry myself to sleep. My mind would be in so many different places, always asking, “What did I do? What did I do wrong?” But after all of that, I came to some realizations. I had to stop apologizing for things that were out of my control.

Looking back at our friendship, I noticed that I was always apologizing for things that weren’t my fault. I thought if I kept apologizing, we’d still be friends and everything would be OK if it was her way. But then I became friends with people who don’t think that way and don’t make me feel that way. They reminded me that I shouldn’t apologize for things that aren’t my fault. That friendship wasn’t good for me. It wasn’t good for the people around me, and I had to start thinking clearly. My best friends—my true best friends—were there for me in this situation, and I’m utterly grateful for them. Around that time, I also had my boyfriend to help me out. He was a gem and helped me through it as well.

Three people in particular really helped me get through it: my two best friends Savanah and Johnny and my older sister. They were there for me, and they showed me—along with my other wonderful friend groups, showed me what a true friendship should be. They gave me the strength and comfort to know that it was OK for me to walk away from that situation and not look back. That’s one of my biggest pieces of advice: If someone is treating you a certain way, it’s OK to leave. And I just refused to listening to myself for years. All of my friends noticed it, too. Finally, I stood my ground and thought, “Nope, I don’t have to take this anymore. I can leave. I have to get out of this situation.” And i’ve been better off ever since.

I’m not saying I don’t miss her. I wish her all the best in this world. I genuinely wish her nothing but success. She is one of the funniest, most ambitious, and overall greatest people I’ve ever known. But some people aren’t meant to be in your life forever, and that’s OK. I don’t know where she is now or what’s going on with her. All I know is that I hope she is doing we;;. The memories we shared together were some of the most amazing ones, and I’ll always keep them. We had a great friendship, and the happy moments will stay with me. But like I said, some people aren’t meant to be in your life forever, and that’s OK. Sometimes you just have to learn to let it go when it is not serving you anymore.

If you are going through a friendship breakup or thinking about letting somebody go, find the strength to do it. Genuinely. Pay attention to the people who make time for you, care about you, and put you first. Make sure they genuinely care about you. You’ll know it and you’ll feel it if they do. You won’t ever have to second-guess it or micromanage it. Friendship is a very simple thing, but the complexity it can obtain is insane.

 

 

Getting Into My First Relationship

Summer 2024 was probably one of the best summers I have ever experienced in my life. I got into my first relationship, and I’ve never been happier—genuinely. Now, we haven’t been together very long, but he is an incredible person, and I just wanted to share my story, how I’ve been feeling, and how it all came together.

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Backstory:

A bit of backstory: I never dated anybody in high school. I would have situationships with people, but nothing progressed to the title of boyfriend and girlfriend. It never really got to that point. I just deemed myself as a person who thought, “Oh, commitment? Scary. Why do we need to do that?” I didn’t want to be tied down. I figured I’d stay single forever. My plan was to focus on my career after high school, dive straight into school, and stay on track kind of having incredible tunnel vision. I didn’t want any distractions, especially not boys. I was one of the number one boy-haters. If you’re a girl, you get it. And I did accomplish a whole lot before we got together I got my licence, traveled, became a lifeguard, and even started at BCIT I was already creating my own little story enjoying my solitude.

I had a clear path for myself, but I also had avoidant attachment issues. Genuinely, I would flinch every time someone got close. I would run away every time someone tried to get close. I had a lot of issues with being vulnerable with people romantically. I let down a couple of people because I think I led them on, letting them believe I liked them when I really didn’t. It became a continuous pattern I knew I had to stop and fix.

The Saturday Shift:

Spring of 2024 came around, and I started working every Saturday morning at this pool. This boy was also working Saturday mornings, but I didn’t notice him until my second shift. My first shift? Pretty sure I was hungover. When I came into work, one of my best friends said, “Hey, have you noticed this boy?” I hadn’t, so I took a look at him, and he was so cute—head-to-toe my type. I was hooked. From that moment, I was like, “Oh my God, this guy is so cute! I don’t know what to do with myself.”

Tying this back to my avoidant attachment issues: I’ve had a lot of crushes—too many. I’d have a new work crush every week. It was bad. But this time was different. Even my coworkers noticed. They were like, “Oh, you really like this one” And I sure did. However, there was an issue. We genuinely thought he had a girlfriend, so there was a bit of uncertainty and worry. Too a point where we asked everybody but him and the funniest part about this story is that my best friend went to the same high school as he did so imagine the reaction I got out of her when I told her about my work crush.

Now, the lesson sets we worked were really, really long—up to two months—because we only worked one day a week, plus spaced out by holidays. I saw this guy every Saturday, but I was way too nervous to talk to him. Side note it was genuinely the only day of the week that got me hyped up for work, and I work a lot.  And I’m a confident person! I can talk to almost anyone and get along with everyone. But I couldn’t muster the courage to talk to him. Every time we were in the same room, I was silent. He was very shy, too. He was always on his phone, head down, only talking to his best friend at work. That best friend was his childhood buddy, so they clung to each other. It was hard to break into their little bubble.

I went to BCIT with his best friend, so I thought, “Let me talk to him first. Maybe he’ll mention me.” That was my first interaction strategy. Finally, my friends encouraged me to talk to him, saying, “Just do it! It’s not that hard!” So I did. I went up to him while I was guarding, and he was in the hot tub. He looked dazed, like he was about to pass out. I asked him if he was okay, and that was our first interaction. Three words. When I got back to the guard room, I was shaking. But my friends were proud because three words were better than none.

A few months later, I’d had a couple of conversations with him at work. I’d overhyped him a bit, so I had to bring him down to earth in my mind. Here’s some advice: Don’t put people on pedestals. No matter how amazing someone seems, remember you’re just as incredible. It doesn’t help to idolize them because you might be let down if they’re not who you imagined. Now, I love my boyfriend—he’s amazing—but treating him as my equal it something very important to me.

The nBA Finals and More:

A couple of months later, I knew he was a basketball fan. I’m more of a hockey girl, but I liked basketball enough to a point where I was actually paying attention to the Finals. I used the NBA Finals as an excuse to DM him. Despite barely talking to him at work, I went for it. We started texting, and long story short, he asked me out. We went on a couple of dates, worked together in the summer, and on July 13th, 2024, I became his girlfriend. Ever since then, it’s been amazing. We’ve had our rough times, as all relationships do, but he’s taught me so much about myself.

My friends have noticed a change in me. I’m lighter, more grounded. He’s one of the most secure people I’ve ever met, and he makes me feel incredibly secure, too. We haven’t been together long, but I can’t wait to see what our story holds. He makes me feel so loved and uplifts me in ways I can’t describe.

We have our pet peeves about each other, as every couple does. Without those troubles, relationships would be boring. I’ve learned so much, like how to balance friendships with a relationship. As someone who had intimacy and commitment issues, it’s been a learning experience. I’m independent and stubborn, but I’m grateful for someone who keeps me calm and grounded, checks in on me, and even checks me when I’m wrong. I do the same for him.

I believe in being whole before entering a relationship. Not two halves making a whole, but two wholes creating something even greater. That’s what 2024 has taught me. If you’ve experienced something similar, I hope you can relate. Trust me, all my friends were shocked when I became a girlfriend. It was a mic drop moment for sure.

 

How to Run a Girls’ Night

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First Step: Gather Your Group

Start by calling up your girls and setting a date. A key factor in this process is to give out multiple dates. Having options is always good because everyone has different schedules, and coordinating can be tricky. Using apps like Instagram’s poll feature is a fantastic way to make it interactive and convenient for everyone to vote on the dates through a group chat. You can also use messaging apps like WhatsApp or Facebook Messenger to discuss and finalize plans. Communication is key to ensuring everyone feels included.

Depending on the season or upcoming holidays, you can choose a fun theme to make the event even more exciting. For instance, with Valentine’s Day approaching, you can host a Galentine’s Day celebration. Whether you’re single, taken, or in a situationship, everyone deserves a little love on this day. In spring, you might try a floral tea party; in the summer, a beach day or picnic could be perfect. The possibilities are endless when planning a memorable girls’ night. Consider cozy themes like pumpkin carving or a Halloween costume party for fall. Winter nights could feature hot cocoa bars and holiday movie marathons.

Plan Your Theme and Assemble a Team

Once the date is set and everyone agrees, the next step is forming a team. While some prefer hosting alone, having a few helpers (around three) can make things smoother. Breaking up tasks ensures you’re not overwhelmed and allows others to contribute their ideas and skills. It is always nice when your friends offer to help; then, you can breathe a bit. A great way to share responsibilities is by organizing a potluck. Ask or put out an idea for each guest to bring a treat on theme or their favourite dish—drinks, whether non-alcoholic or alcoholic, are a must. Depending on the vibe you’re aiming for, you can curate the drink menu to match the theme.

Pick or give out specific roles to your friends. For example:

  • One person can handle decorations, ensuring they’re on theme and cute for the event.
  • Another can manage food and snacks, whether preparing or purchasing them.
  • Someone else can coordinate the outfits or a dress code to tie everything together. You could suggest guests wear pink, red, or other romantic colors for a Valentine’s Day party.

Consider assigning someone to create a playlist or manage the music for the night. Music can set the tone for the event, whether upbeat tracks for dancing or mellow tunes for a relaxed vibe.

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Prep the Party

Finally, the big day arrives, and it’s time to prepare for the party. To keep everyone engaged, consider planning games or activities. For example, my friend recently hosted a girls’ night with a Kahoot! Quiz, which turned out to be a hilarious and entertaining way to get everyone involved. Activities don’t have to be overly complicated or continuous. The goal is to create moments that bring everyone together, even if it’s just one shared activity.

Crafts and games are also excellent for bringing the room together. Simple ideas like painting, creating personalized trinkets, or even organizing a small trivia game can work wonders. If you’re planning crafts, make sure you have all the supplies ready, so it’s easy for everyone to participate. Setting up a photo booth with props is another fun activity that can double as a memory-maker.

Another way to make the night special is by capturing memories. Bring along disposable cameras, Polaroids, or even digital cameras to take photos throughout the event. Having physical copies of these memories, whether they’re candid or posed, adds a sentimental touch that everyone will appreciate. You could even create a shared online album afterward for everyone to contribute their pictures.

As the host, don’t forget to enjoy the party yourself. It’s easy to get caught up in ensuring everyone else is having a good time, but you’re part of the celebration too! Remember to eat the food, take part in the activities, and make memories with your friends. You’ve worked hard to create this special night, so take a moment to soak it all in.

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More Than Just a Girls’ Night

A girls’ night doesn’t always have to be a big event. Sometimes, it’s as simple as inviting a few close friends over to watch a movie, cook, or bake together. While this article focused on hosting larger gatherings, it’s important to find comfort in the beauty of smaller, more intimate moments too. These quieter nights can be just as meaningful and impactful.

The aftereffect is one of the most remarkable aspects of a girls’ night. These events often leave you feeling recharged and grateful. Being surrounded by people who genuinely care about you and share the intention of having a good time together is incredibly uplifting. There’s a unique sense of warmth and coziness that lingers long after the night is over.

I always leave a girls’ night with a deep sense of gratitude. People coming together to celebrate friendship is truly magical. It’s hard to describe the euphoria you feel after spending an evening with like-minded people who empower and support you. It’s a different kind of fulfillment than you might experience in other relationships, but it’s just as essential. The love and support exchanged during these gatherings create bonds that last a lifetime.

If you’re considering hosting a girls’ night, I wholeheartedly encourage you to go for it. It’s an experience that’s not only enjoyable but also deeply enriching. And if you’re not part of a girls’ night demographic, don’t worry – you can still take inspiration from this article. The basics of planning, togetherness, and making memories are universal. Friendship, after all, is a gift worth celebrating in any given form, and it gives you a reason to party! In a wholesome way, of course.

 

Warriors Weekends: Energy, Redemption, and Unforgettable Moments 

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This past Friday, the Vancouver Warriors Rocked Rogers Arena with their annual Country Night with a vibrant live band performance from Antonio Larosa Band, who kicked up the energy throughout the game. This game was one you did not want to miss.  Now Vancouver has a incredible in crowd dynamics, and the players felt it and showed up throughout their game. The first three quarters were a bit slower, but regardless, our Warriors kept a tight match Against the San Diego Seals, our West Coast rivals. But even before the game, many stakes were going into it. To give a brief background, Last Season, the Vancouver Warriors lost to the San Diego Seals to secure a spot in the playoffs after fighting back to contention. This was a redemption match-up for sure, in which both teams had a point to prove. The Warriors are 3 and 1 in the NLL standings currently. Furthermore, I’ll write about some key highlights that this game had to offer that reminded me of how amazing it is to be a Weekend Warrior.   

  

Keegan Bal: Star of the Night  

Star Player Keegan Bal was absolutely on fire with 6 points scored throughout the game, sending the Arena into a frenzy during the 4th quarter of this game. He’s a significant asset to this talented group and watching him play is something you should not miss. His strive and truculence that he brings into the box are incredible. Fans were getting a bit rigged in their seats regarding halftime, desiring the unknown of whether the Warriors would produce a win. Bal briefly shares Coach Curt’s message for them (3-2): “Just continue… continue on the process, don’t change the way we play”. Bal also shared that San Diego had a week off, so the teams’ endurances were on different ends, and the Warriors had to keep their head up and continue with their undeniable diligence. Bal further commented on the opportunity of redemption within this game, expressing, “We just wanted to win, every game we just want to win,” As simple as it sounds, it’s true. If you were a viewer of that game, you could see the continuous drive and effort from the team. Bal gave some love to their young goalie, who also came through in the final minutes of this game. 

 

Aden Walsh: Rising to the Occasion 

Young Goalie Aden Walsh was in the starting lineup for Fridays match and with a couple of slip up goals his performance was a must see in the Warriors times of need during the 4th quarter. Walsh gave some major props to team leader Bal commenting on his performance of the night “I was blown away on the other end of the floor there… even when he has a slow start like that, we know he’s gonna pick it up just like he did tonight.”. Walsh was also asked as being a younger player in this league whether he’s feeling the pressure and here’s what he had to say about that, “No… each game comes with more experience you get more comfortable out there so it’s definitely easier [as] each game goes on… definitely feeling more confident”. This is such a common question that is in young players ears constantly whether you’re in the NBA, the NFL or majorly the NHL around here. And as a young sports viewer/fan the proof is in the pudding throughout last season entering this one Walsh’s performance has only gotten better and better and I hope we get to see him continue moving up. And speaking of shining moments when the Warriors needed it the most in the last minutes of the game, he makes a beautiful save to shut that door on San Diego and the crowd went buck wild if were keeping it country themed. It’s moments like those that really bring a team and crowd together wrapping us all into one. Overall Walsh’s continuous efforts in pushing this team forward has been great to watch and something you would enjoy seeing as well.  

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Coach Curt: Building Resilience and Belief  

Furthermore, not only is he a leader on the floor but off it. We got to chat with Coach Curt after the game and he touched on the team’s resilience throughout the game.  With the warriors outstanding come back in the game Coach says, “sports is 90% mental and i think that’s a big part for us is mentally [they] where strong”. Which was really on the nose on how this game went through truly. The fight those players had on Friday was something truly special. He was even asked about the upcoming weekends they have ahead of them, and he touched on how this game will help them forward into the next “It’ll be a battle, but it puts us in a good position… we learned a lot of good lessons we can take away into the next.” And something that really stuck out to be the phrase “belief” it’s a term I’ve heard a lot going to these games and being a part of the post games and Coach Curt dove into the meaning of it and how it’s present in the locker room. “It’s high…the guys believe in each other…when you see results and you get tangible results from things you talk about the belief becomes even more…the biggest thing is believing in each other”. The amount of admiration that as a fan you can have for that is incredible because it really gives you a sense that this team is just more than face value but there’s a community within and an incredible dynamic between each player. And how all of that comes together to make one really makes this hometown team shine among the rest. Being led by an admirable coach as well ties everything together as well and so it was great to come back and hear what Coach had to say after that victory.  

 

The Weekend Warrior Experience 

Being part of a Warriors game is more than just watching lacrosse—it’s an experience. The vibrant atmosphere of Rogers Arena, amplified by the themed night and the crowd’s enthusiasm, creates a sense of community. From fans donning Western gear to kids proudly holding their posters, every detail contributes to the magic. 

This sense of connection is why becoming a “Weekend Warrior” is so special. Whether you’re a seasoned fan or a newcomer to the sport, attending a Warriors game offers something for everyone. The energy, the camaraderie, and the thrill of watching a team give their all make it a must-see event. 

Final Thoughts 

The Vancouver Warriors’ Country Night was a testament to the team’s resilience, skill, and the incredible support of their fans. From Keegan Bal’s standout performance to Aden Walsh’s game-saving heroics and Coach Curt’s inspiring leadership, every element came together to create an unforgettable evening. 

So, whether you’re a die-hard fan or just looking for a fun night out, consider joining the Warriors at Rogers Arena. You’ll not only witness top-tier lacrosse but also become part of a community that celebrates the spirit of competition and camaraderie. Don’t miss your chance to experience the magic of Warriors weekends—it’s more than a game; it’s a celebration. 

The Rise of Formula One

In the last few years, F1 has experienced a rise in popularity from niche motorsport to a global phenomenon. There are various reasons for this, from the kind of audience the sport currently caters to to its nature.

Rising Accessibility of F1 through Social Media and TV

However, digital media is the most influential driver of interest in F1. With the recent introduction of streaming services like F1 TV and platforms partnered with sports like Netflix, races have never been more accessible. This Netflix series, “Drive to Survive,” covers most of the behind-the-scenes drama and personal stories of the drivers and further appeals to people who might not usually be interested in the sport. Because of this access, it has really helped connect fans with the sport, especially female fans.

Diverse and Charismatic Drivers

On the other hand, the team of racers in F1 today is not the last factor in its popularity. Sports people such as Lewis Hamilton, Charles Leclerc, and Lando Norris have turned out to be excellent, but with regards to the stars of sports celebrated in the past, however, at the same time, they are some sort of cultural figures. Hamilton continuously uses his platform to promote diversity and social justice, issues that align closely with the soul of the new generation of fans. In addition, there are the personalities and stories behind these drivers. Even casual viewers can quickly become fans as they get anxious about any ups and downs these persons encounter on and off the track.

Thrilling Racing Action and Competitive Seasons

Competition, too, has played a role in drawing the popularity of Formula One over the years.  Especially during the 2021 season between Hamilton and Verstappen, it drew massive interest in the hearts of motorsport enthusiasts and the general public. And even now, the battle between Verstappen and Norris is in this year’s season. The thrill in the races, unexpected twists, and closely fought championships have kept audiences on tenterhooks as their own community waits on the next race in anticipation.

Expansion of Races into the World

The strategic expansion of F1 into new markets, including races in the Middle East, Asia, and the United States, has grown its fan base. Events like the Miami Grand Prix and the upcoming Las Vegas Grand Prix have tapped into new audiences, further cementing F1’s global presence. A commitment to sustainability and innovation, such as its goal to be carbon neutral by 2030, also resonates with the socially conscious audience.

Overall, F1’s popularity continues to grow, with each season being different. This year’s season has brought much attention to the diverse race winners. Competition is back in the sport, and all the fans, old or new, are excited to see how this season of 2024 will end.

Between Two Cultures: The Downfalls on Not Knowing

How many languages can you speak? I can only speak one, and part of me will always be a little upset because I never learned my mom’s language. I mean, I would say it’s 50/50. I can’t blame myself fully for it, but I also have to take accountability for not putting in the effort to learn.

My mom speaks Tagalog, and she tried to teach my sister and me and didn’t forget to remind us that we didn’t want to learn, which is untrue. I wished she had been stricter about it growing up, but it was a challenge when we took our trips to the Philippines, especially in my older years. You feel isolated when you can’t understand what your family is trying to say to you.

However, it’s similar to when you go to another country, and you can’t speak, for example, Italian, but there is a sense of hurt pride when it’s your actual culture.
Especially when you are hit with comments about why you didn’t learn or did not care to learn to speak Tagalog, as if it was all my fault. My mom had tried; she did, but the people I was surrounded by mainly spoke English and occasionally Spanish. With all these different languages coming at me at once, English is common ground in all the chaos. My eagerness to learn my mom’s language grows as I get older. It’s now up to me to commit because I feel it brings me closer to that side of myself and my life.

I have felt a heavy disconnection from my Filipino side, especially now that I am entering my twenties. I want to explore and embrace that side of life. One thing I will give myself props more for is that I can only slightly pick up what my mom is telling me when she goes on her Tagalog rants, especially when I haven’t done my chores. That’s when the words become crystal clear.

All in all, if you could be fluent in any language, which one would it be? Mine would definitely be a mix of Spanish and Tagalog. I hope to pursue learning either language in the future, as it will bring me closer to my roots.