Hey everyone! I will be giving you 7 tips on how to deal with conflict.
- Take a breather
- Before reacting so quickly to your problem try taking a step back and just calming yourself down first. It can be really tough at first because everyone always wants to react to a situation right away. But if you take a step back and just take a breather this will help you organize your thoughts.
- Take your time to think about the situation. If you can try to go outside and just think about the situation. Once you have come up with an idea to solve it go back it and try fixing it.
- Take a nap or sleep
- Dealing with your problem after your well rested will really help you organize and clear your thoughts.
- You won’t be as mad or reactive and you will have more time to collect your thoughts about solving the problem.
- Write down what is bothering you
- If you write down what is bothering you, you will be able to organize your thoughts.
- Then beside each thing that is bothering you, you can write down how you will solve that problem.
- After you wrote everything down take some time away from that paper. Then come back to it a few hours later. Look it over and see if they ways you are trying to solve the problem is ethical.
- Understand your personality vs the other person’s personality
- Every personality type reacts differently to each problem. Sometimes people personality just doesn’t get along with each other.
- Each personality type communicates and reacts differently. If you can figure out how each person reacts or deals with conflict this will give you a better understand of what approach to take.
- A good site that looks into personality types is 16Personalities
- Talk to a friend
- Sometimes friends can help give you an outside perspective of your situation. They may help clarify things. They can help guide you in the right direction of solving your problem. But of course talk to someone who is mature (preferably someone who is older)
- Confront the person in a calm manner about what is bothering you
- When you confront someone try not to put the blame on the other person. This means avoid using statements such as “you did..” and try to tell them how you feel about the situation.
- Explain to them you want to work things out and ask how you can make the situation better. This way they might be able to reflect on themselves and see that what they are doing is wrong.
- Talk to a counselor, teacher, or parent
- Sometimes talking to the person directly doesn’t always work so try to sit down and talk to someone of higher power. This way if the person you confronted doesn’t see the seriousness in your situation, then you can bring in someone else to help you solve your problem.
If you have any other ways to deal with conflicts let us know in the comments section!
Hope you all liked this post!
–Monika Szucs ♥