Being direct is something I’m not so good at. Beating around the bush is something I know all too well. But there comes a point where you just have to be direct, remember honesty is the best policy and mean what you say, not say what you mean.

I think a lot of people have a hard time being direct, whether it’s a fear of letting down the other person, offending them, or just not having the nerve to say no, I bet you have been there one time or another. 

There have been countless times where I’ve dug myself into a hole trying to get out something when I could’ve just said no and avoided the whole situation but alas this is a bad character flaw I have that I just can’t seem to shake.

I feel like there’s two sides to the story, you’re either good at communication and being direct, or you’re like me and will avoid it at all costs. There’s a huge culture and stigma I see around standing up for yourself or being direct and it all brings me back to being scared that what I say will be taken the wrong way! 

Avoiding confrontation is also a whole other game I know all the plays too. I hate it. Whether I’m the one being called out or I’m the one doing the calling out, it all just sucks and is soooo uncomfortable! But as I grow up and do more “adulty” things I’m realizing this is kinda just something I’ll have to learn how to handle, especially in a professional setting. 

I think there is also a fine line between being real and direct and getting your point across and then just being plain rude, and I think it’s a line that gets blurred far too often. I understand people wanting to make their point or even stand up for themselves but when it comes off rude I think it’s coming from a place of insecurity. 

I think being direct could solve a lot of my problems and I see how this is 100%  a me problem. I just am nervous to do it and scared that what I will say will be taken the wrong way. 

So where do you land? Are you like me and run the other way when it comes time to be direct? Or do you face it head on?