Men and women are not equals. It is 2019 and women have fought for equality for centuries in all aspects of life but unfortunately we will never be looked at as such. I could rant about equal pay, under representation in government, being a minority in so many business sectors, inequality in sports, being at greater risk of rape and domestic violence. Point is, I could go on forever about a bunch of different things but today, right now I’m gonna focus on one way women are degraded and shamed for having similar behaviors as men and that is sex.
A remix of a song came out recently by an artist named Summer Walker. She released the song titled “Girls Need Love” back in the summer of 2018 and Drake hopped on the track and that version came out last week. After taking a listen and then playing it on repeat all week I’ve thought about the lyrics in depth. It’s not just another song where a girl sings about wanting sex. It’s about the sexual double standard that’s always existed, that praises men for the amount of girls they’ve been with but shames women for having sex to begin with or even wanting to.
The chorus of the song is as follows:
Girls can’t never say they want it
Girls can’t never say how
Girls can’t never say they need it
Girls can’t never say now
Hearing this I can’t help but agree with how true it is. Girls can never make comments about sex/wanting sex without the automatic assumption that they are “sluts” or “freaks”. We as women can’t simple desire something without being labeled and that’s just another behavior that males are rewarded for.
Women are brought up in a social climate where talking about their sexual relations is taboo and must be done in private. This is bewildering to me because the social climate men are brought up in is the complete opposite.
Summer Walker also says in the song: what’s a girl to do when she needs love to. Because truly what is a girl to do when she can’t talk about having sexual desires without being thought of as a slut, can’t have sex with an acquaintance because she’ll be labeled as a whore who’s easy and then of course can’t wear anything suggestive because she’ll be a slut or a whore or any other derogatory term you can think of oh and she’ll be “asking for it”.
Here are the lyrics to the full song: